Comfort Through Silliness

I’m not on Facebook nearly as much as I once was; I don’t know if my life has other priorities or I’ve been too busy the past few months with work. Regardless, today as I found myself perusing the pages I came across a friends post that was a message from a loved one that is no longer with us. Yes, it was one of those silly FB games…you know, like who are your drunken friends, what would your cowboy name be, etc. Sometimes I click on them just for fun and once in a while I even post them, but usually I smile and just close the window and go back to reading posts. What I loved about this particular post of Sheelah’s is what she wrote, “BS or not sometimes I miss them so much even a click on Facebook helps comfort the heart 💜.” If you have experienced grief, you totally understand this. So, I found myself clicking the picture and filling in BJ’s name under “who do you want to hear from”? As I read the words I sobbed; how completely true they were. The only thing I would have changed would be “mom” instead of “Peggy”.  (So, I did!) Even though I didn’t post the message, I kept a snip of it and felt the urge to write this blog post around that message.

Even though I know this is computer generated, it is exactly what I needed in exactly that moment. Knowing where BJ is, I can imagine him saying this to me now. I think he would be proud of the way we (not just me) honor him and his memory. I know he would be pleased that each of us have continued living our lives beautifully, even though his ended. He would not want me to feel alone and he continually sends me reminders that he isn’t far and will always be by my side, and that gives me strength in my time of need. 

It seems like each time I have been on FB in recent weeks someone I know has lost a loved one and it breaks my heart because I know what lies ahead for them. Some have lost a parent, some have lost a friend, but they have all lost someone that was near and dear to their heart. It is abundantly clear that as we get older we are going to lose people we love. Oh, how simpler life when we were younger now seems. No matter your age, no matter who you’ve lost or what you’ve lost; remember that you are not alone and even on the unbearable and painstaking days you will get through it…you will make your way through your journey of grief. God Bless you and your loved ones. Stay strong and weep whenever you need to; it will help.